As human beings, we have an insatiable need to better ourselves. We want desperately to be the best versions of ourselves for the people we love. We want to make those people proud, make them see us in a way that would make us proud, were we to look in from the outside.
How can we be good enough for ourselves, though, when we are never good enough for the people who are supposed to love us unconditionally? It seems like, as we grow up, we’re constantly told that we’re not making the right decisions for ourselves, that we’re screwing up our lives by doing this or not doing that.
Our families mean well. We all know that they do and say things in order to protect us or guide us toward some inevitable future. But how are we supposed to make decisions as adults – because, after all, we are adults now, right? – when we’re constantly being told that we’re making the wrong decisions? We’re told that we should be taking a certain job or dating a certain kind of person or living a certain lifestyle.
We’re expected to pay rent and bills, to begin paying back a never-ending string of loans. We’re expected to buy groceries when we’re hungry and fix our cars when they break and take care of ourselves when we catch a cold. And yet, we are then not supposed to love who we want or follow the career path that we’re passionate about. So, how can you be yourself when you’re told to ignore the very things that make you who you are?